RA Self-Care

  • Talk with someone about your feelings – anger, sorrow, and other emotions – even though it may be difficult.
  • Don't hold yourself responsible for negative events that happen to your residents or be frustrated because you feel that you cannot help every resident every time.
  • Take steps to promote your own physical and emotional healing by staying active in your daily life patterns or by adjusting them. This healthy outlook will help yourself. (i.e. healthy eating, rest, exercise, relaxation, meditation.)
  • Maintain a daily routine, limiting demanding responsibilities of yourself.
  • Spend time with family and friends.
  • Don't suppress having a good cry. Tears can help cleanse the body of substances that form under stress. Tears also release a natural pain-relieving substance from the brain.
  • Do relaxation exercises daily. Good ones include visualization (imagining a soothing, restful scene), deep muscle relaxation (tensing and relaxing muscle fibers), meditation, and deep breathing.
  • Count to 10 when you're so upset you want to scream. This gives you time to reflect on what's bothering you and helps to calm you down.
  • Modify your environment to get rid of or manage your exposure to stress.
  • Rehearse for stressful events. Imagine yourself feeling calm and confident in an anticipated stressful situation.
  • Escape for a little while. Watch a movie, visit a museum, etc.
  • Laugh a lot. Keep a sense of humor.
  • Take a warm shower or bath.
  • Reward yourself with little things that make you feel good.
  • Don't try to please everyone. You can't.
  • Balance work and play. Plan social and extracurricular activities in the time you have left after class, work, and sleep. Don't take on more activities than you can reasonably do in a given day or week. Set priorities.
  • Listen to music that you find soothing while at a quiet, calm place. Meditate.

Contact Us

Personal Counseling Center
Campus location: Marguerite Hall, 1st FL
Office Hours: Mon-Fri, 8:30 AM to 4:30 PM
Evening Hours by Appointment
Phone: (716) 829-7819

Kim Zittel, LMHC, NCC
Director, Personal Counseling Center
Licensed Mental Health Counselor
National Certified Counselor

Erin M. Moss, MA, LMHC
Licensed Mental Health Counselor

Isabel Molina, APRN BC
Psychiatric Nurse Practitioner


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